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Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Clinging, Stealing, Biting, Loving...This is My House

Clinging...Hailey has become very clingy since our vacation to the Jersey Shore. I don't know if it was because she was getting more attention there or what, but I am not good with clingy. She doesn't leave my side during Kindermusik, story time, or any other time that we're out of the house...and sometimes even in the house. It's gotten slightly better over the past week, but still noticeable. I know that I should love this time (and I secretly do), but I just want her to be an independent girl and not a "hanger." She was all over me when my Mom came to visit this past weekend, but she gradually opened up and started to trust my Mom too. We'll see how it goes...I'm just not used to her hanging all over me. It is cute though when she crawls over and puts her head on my legs...she is pretty cuddly...okay, maybe I don't hate it!

Stealing...Matthew steals everything that Hailey has. He could be totally into a toy or a task on the other side of the house, but if Hailey picks something up, he has to have it. The problem is, I don't know if I should discipline him for snatching or her for sharing. I'm pretty sure I should focus on him (which is what I have been doing). He needs to know that he needs to wait his turn. She gets so pissed off at him too...she can't stand it.

Biting...When Matthew steals something of Hailey's her first instinct is to bite him...at least, that's what it looks like. I really hope that I'm reading this wrong, but it totally looks like she's going after him out of frustration. If that's the case, I need to nip that in the bud. I have told her "no biting" and even done some time outs (which people say shouldn't be done until they're older, but there has been an impact with my kids). Our time outs consist of a child sitting on my lap, facing the wall, for approximately 60 seconds. During this time, the child will try to escape, but I remain calm and at the end of 60 seconds, tell them the correct behavior. Again, I don't know if it really makes a difference at this point, but I gotta do something!

Loving...Both Hailey and Matthew have become much more loving. They have started to give hugs and kisses (the kisses usually consist of the child pressing his/her forehead as hard as possible into mine). It's adorable. Today, Matthew got out of the stroller at Kindermusik, ran over to our instructor, and gave her a huge hug. It was adorable. Hailey is cuddling and putting her head in my lap, on my shoulder, or just falling backwards on to me to make sure I'm still there. Matthew spent 5 minutes standing next to me yesterday with his head on my shoulder...I just patted (is that right?) him on the back and let him do it. It was really precious. Matthew has tried to give Hailey kisses, but she repels him. I think that she believes he's doing something to her rather than just trying to be nice and she's so used to playing defense that it just takes over! She'll learn though...I think they're going to be really good friends.

Other tidbits...Hailey has taken to pooping in the tub at least twice a week...it's gross and we're starting to put her over the toilet to show her the we poop in the potty. Again, it may be too early, but we gotta try something. We're going away for our first weekend with both parents gone in a few weeks. My sister and her husband are coming in from Boston to take care of the babies (thank God). I'm nervous...not because of the fact that we're leaving them, but I hope they're okay for Manda and Jeff. We've started Christmas shopping for the kids...I love it. I bit the bullet and bought 12 month Fall clothes...I had to...they were tripping all over the place and looked ridiculous. I'm glad I did it.

That's all for now! Have a great day!