I read this book when the babies were little tiny little baby babies...does that even make sense?
That was pretty much about the time that I thought I would die of uselessness.
Before I realized that my teats weren't doing their job and I was literally starving my children (unknowingly, of course).
I didn't know what to do.
What I did know was that I wasn't going to use those binks for longer that I needed to...I was thinking 3 months and they were gone.
What an ass I was...
That book said that they called pacifiers "dummies" in the UK b/c it basically shut the kids up and didn't allow him/her to express themselves.
Well, you know what? No kid needs to express themselves at 3:45 AM...
Anyway, I must have totally missed that 3 month mark b/c that deadline would have been 18 months ago and no good mother would miss a deadline by that long, would they???
I love binks.
I seriously love them.
I don't overuse them...just naps and bedtime (seriously...that's all it's ever been...I can't stand to see kids with binks in the middle of the day...but that's just me).
What am I going to do when I am forced to get rid of them?
One might ask, "What prompted this post?"
At 6:41 this morning, Matt started making noise...whiny "I'm-not-ready-to-be-awake-yet-but-I-am-so-come-help-me" noise. You know the kind.
If you've read my blog for a while, you know I don't get my kids out of bed any time before 7:00.
Then the debate started...if I go up, he might see me, want to be with me (who wouldn't? I'm such a peach early in the morning), and get more upset when I leave, but if I don't, he might wake Hailey up and she likes to sleep later. Should I? Shouldn't I?
At this point, I just wanted Husband to tell me what to do...instead he was lamenting about his jacket being in his backpack still and possibly being wrinkled...WTF? Dude! I need help here! I don't know what to do and haven't had a drop of coffee yet, so I'm completely incapable of making proper decisions! HELP MEEEEE!!!!
I went up...gave him his bink...exited the room in stealth mode (except for that stupid stuffed toy with the bell in it that was strategically placed right next to the door...eff you, toy).
He promptly fell back to sleep on top of his pillow.
Now I have time to write a blog post...not only that, but this little incident actually broke my blog-block.
What am I going to do what we have to get rid of them?
They are my Sleep Savior?
I'm going to be all teary and tantrum-y when we have to get rid of them...just like a little kid.
It will probably be a tougher adjustment for me than the Crazies.
Maybe I'll have Husband do it.
Super Nanny has the kids get all excited about giving their binks away to the Binky Fairy so that all the new babies can use them (ahem...not exactly sanitary, Jojo). Cute idea, but I'm smarter than that.
I'll know that the binks didn't go to new babies...I'll know it in my heart.
Every time a Crazy cries out in the night...I'll know it...I'll miss my binky...I'll have tremors b/c I won't be able to just go in and easily "mute" my kids...
They are my own personal mute button and I dread the day that is inevitably coming...
Is there anything that you do/say/allow that acts as your own personal mute button (come on...do you give extra snacks to get the kids to stay quiet in the store)? This could be with your kids, husband, boss, in-laws? Whatever!!! Share!
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13 comments:
I am totally with you...my two have paa-paa's (equal to your bink's). They only get them at night and at nap. We do not run all over the house or the town with some plug in our mouths. We do not talk with them in our mouths...if we are talking they are OUT!!!
I have heard of kids planting them to help the "baby seeds" grow. I am not sure how we will get rid of them or when, all I do know...is as long as it is for sleeping-they can keep them. No different than a thumb and I swear a dirty paa-paa is cleaner than a dirty thumb!
Good Luck...
Love the new blog look!!!
very cute pics in the header.
I love dummies too (we also say dummies in SA) but like you, I only allow them for naps or bed.
Although on holiday, my mother in law was constantly, "where are their dummies?>???"
and I had to fight hard to prevent the permanent dummy accessory.
P.S. you had blog block? you post every day!!!
what on earth? LOL
I totally give the kids puffs at the store just to keep them content! Pacis are a lifesaver for us too - especially at night. When that's the only thing that will get my boys back to sleep peacefully, I'm definitely going to use it!
I can totally relate to the "should I or shouldn't I" conundrum of whether to go into the babies' room. Over the past few months, Baby A has had a couple of melt-downs where she seemed terrified to go to sleep during nap. I would eventually give in and go to get her...in stealth mode, as you said, so not to wake Baby B. Each time, Baby B woke up as I was *almost* to the door with Baby A. And then she was TERRIFIED that Mommy was taking her sister somewhere - I guess? Anyhoo, it led to not one, but TWO screaming babies when they *should* have been napping. UGH!
I am very guilty of using Puffs in restaurants. I don't want to set the girls up to be emotional eaters or have some such psychological scar because I occasionally give them food to pacify them. But what else will keep them content long enough for me to woof down a burger?!
Love the new header!
Riley used his paci until he was about 9 months old. Then we went to Disney World. I stopped using them there. It was kind of genius, he had a Mickey Mouse party every 5 minutes filled with Magic Castle viewings and getting everybody's autograph he forgot about his paci. On the airplane ride home I offered it to him incase his ears needed to be popped. He pushed it away.
A few months later, I realized he may need something to help soothe himself with. I realized he LOVED his afghan I crocheted him. So he has a lovey.
He uses his lovey in his crib and if he has to go to somebody else's house and have a nap while there.
Good luck!
I'm a pacifier fan...and I will admit my girls carry theirs around ALL day long! I said at a year we would start limiting it to naps and bedtime, but they love them, and I just can't fight that battle yet. In restaurants, anything goes as a "mute button"...puffs, food, keys, cell phone, whatever it takes!
ha ha! Dying over the WTF dude comment to hubs. Umm, what DON'T I do to shut my kids up? TV, snacks. I just gave them all snacks to be quiet for 5 minutes and put Curious George on so I could schedule my annual GYN appt. Fun.
Duct tape. It works wonders.
We are fairly certain that Tot didn't come with a mute button and I will allow Bean to keep her bink until she graduates high school.
Our ped (also a twin mama) advocatd the pacis---not simply for the "mute" aspect---but for the satisfaction of that VERY strong suck reflex. Our two at a VERY early age would place a paci in their sibling's mouth when he/she was upset! Think we ALL feel better with less crying! ;)
My husband swears by a trip the the bathroom for a "quiet moment!"
Life's too short. Not that you asked, but my advice is to let them enjoy their pacis, so you can enjoy some quiet. But, I'm looking at this from the other end - my youngest is five. I miss the baby stage so much (and it goes so quickly) that I'm an advocate for whatever you can do to enjoy those babies more.
They most likely won't take their pacis to kindergarten.
my babes use 'em too. i try and make sure that it's only at nap/bed time, but let's be real. when they're crying for no reason that i can figure out in the middle of the day - i don't even hesitate to reach for those suckers. and neither does my 3 yr old. apparently, she enjoys a little peace and quiet too. ;)
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