First, the pictures...
Second, the stories...
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| Happy Fodder's Day! (Crazies' pronunciation, not mine) |
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| Thank you, self-timer! |
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| "Good reading, Dad...you read all of the words correctly." |
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| Hailey was very proud of her "H." |
If I were like all of those other Facebook freaks that you hate, I'd stop here and pretend like our Father's Day was perfect...you know, because four pictures equals a perfect Father's Day, right?
WRONG!!!
So, you're probably wondering what E.F.F.D. means and I'll tell you...it stands for Epic Fail Father's Day.
That's right...this was not the Father's Day I envisioned for Husband...not at all.
Let's start by blaming him.
Husband is very difficult in terms of someone who loves "special" things and to be spoiled. He doesn't like it. He buys himself everything he wants. He "eats to live" which means I can't really spoil him with food (although I tried with an undercooked filet mignon). He doesn't like to pamper himself (although I made him get an hour-long massage after his 10-mile race on Saturday). He won't sleep in...says it makes him feel worse. He doesn't really get into it...at all.
He likes to "chill."
The big question here is: Who can chill with two toddlers running around like crazy people???
The Crazies were HORRIBLE on Father's Day...seriously horrible! Hailey was the clingiest I have EVER seen her and Matt was just terrible...whiny and annoying.
It's like they equated "Father's Day" to "don't leave Father alone or he'll suffer severe brain damage, so you must be on him at all times."
I kept trying to suggest that we go do something, but he kind of had to wanted to do the lawn.
I had to tutor in the afternoon (okayed by Husband). That kind of sucked, but at least he got some quiet time during naps.
I also asked him earlier in the week if I could get a pedicure (first sign of an Epic Fail) b/c my toenail is falling off and I needed some upkeep. Turns out, he was mad about it all week, but didn't tell me until the end of the day. I felt horrible. I totally got what he was saying.
Anyway, dinner was good...filet mignon (grilled by Yours Truly...and I totally undercooked my own piece), oven roasted new potatoes, and sauteed zucchini and yellow squash. YUM!
When we went up for naps, I inexplicably became obsessed with having to make our bed (that new bedding just doesn't look as nice when it's all messed up) and he got mad at me b/c I got mad at the Crazies b/c they were annoying. He just didn't understand why I had to choose that moment...when the Crazies were going nuts...to make the bed.
Point taken.
It just wasn't my day. I don't know how to spoil Husband. He doesn't know how to be spoiled. I ended up feeling like a sucky wife...he ended up using the words "Epic Fail" way too much (he was kidding, but it still sucked).
I think we made up for it today (Day Out With Thomas...choochoo), but I'm also pretty sure that he's glad he opted for the Good Morning rather than the Happy Ending yesterday...because he wouldn't have gotten the Happy Ending...that's for sure!
Does anyone else suck at this??? Now I have this birthday coming up and I seriously have to do a better job...maybe I should just get rid of the Crazies for the day...any takers???
Stay tuned tomorrow for our Day Out With Thomas...seriously I didn't fuck this up (well, maybe one or two things, but my fuck-ups make you feel better about yourselves, right???).
17 comments:
bummer!! hate days like that. I didn't have any special planned for DH - I am still fostering some mixed emotions about his lack of effort and odd gift for Mothers Day...but I took your idea and made it BETTER! ha! Even better was that I know he felt guilty about his lack of effort on MOther's Day so he told me last week "you don't have to do/get me anything..."
So...instead, I had the kids make him a super cute framed hand print thing, then I got him tickets for him and a friend to see the Detroit Tigers next month, then took him out to dinner (plus we'd had date night Friday night). The kids were a lil crazy while waiting for a table but thankfully dinner itself was good and they settled down so we could eat.
Oh...and I mowed the lawn! (which I often do anyways in the summer, but on weekends, its fair game for whomever has time for it).
My Mother's Day was like that and hubby felt bad...kind of...which made me feel even worse. Father's Day was much better, but not perfect. Seriously, who the hell can have a relaxing day with screaming toddlers running all over the house?? It's not you. It's clear you tried to make the day a nice one, but life happens. The best thing my hubby got for Father's Day was the opportunity to sleep in until 10am (which I don't think either of us has done since before kids).
Our Father's Day wasn't so great either. I worked for 11 hours and he had to make ME dinner. He also cleaned up all the dishes because I was tired. I meant to have the kids make him something last week but we didn't have time. I didn't even get him a card. Instead I wrote a blog post about how great he is. Not sure he cares really but I felt bad. He has a birthday coming up too so I'm going to try to make up a crummy day for him as well. Good luck!
Those are really awesome pictures!! :) Sorry the day wasn't what is was supposed to be. :( Sending good birthday planning vibes your way!
Yeah, I suck at all things birthday/fathers day/holiday pampering because my husband is more of a a penny spent is a penny we didn't save and oh-my-gawd!! We need to save money!
My father's day sucked-FOR ME! I busted my hump to plan it all out and he came up Saturday night to tell me he wanted to go to the zoo. What the hell? We can go to the zoo anytime! We're members! Ugh... So after all was done I made him watch the kids so I could do manly things. Someone has to wear the pants!
Epic Fails make for great blog fodder....silver lining? Think of the stories you have to tell :o)
And the make up sex? Maybe you can save it there :O)
If we can take the Crazies to see Car 2, you can pamper your hubby on his birthday.
the days that I just want things to be "normal" ala father's day/birthdays etc - they always totally suck.
Ours was about a 6. The bits with babies were 8/9 out of 10, the bits with me 4/5 out of 10.
I'll not go into it all but he was not being a good husband! :)
Still he is a fantastic father and best, he liked the gift.
PS this is why i love you - most people would just post the pics and pretend perfection. you make it all real.
XXX
If your husband didn't want you to get a pedicure on "his" day, he should have suggested Saturday. Plus being a parent calls for selflessness at ALL times, even, or maybe, especially, on holidays. I am happy he can call Father's Day his because I have 2 wonderful grandchildren and a fantastic daughter who can all herself "Mommy". So I say, "Many Thanks" to him.
Yeah, I'm sure how we spent Father's day is nowhere close to what he wanted to be doing (haha, driving back from a wedding all day long)
His birthday is coming up too so I did the simple thing of letting him decide. Could have planned a big surprise party (not that I won't still) but he doesn't get what's the big deal about turning 30. Maybe he's right.
Do those "perfect" fathers and mothers days really exist? I'm still convinced that everyone is lying!! B and I went to the lake, but honestly? It was just like any other day. The kids freaked out a bit, I was selfish and went spinning in the morning, and I made him go get qdoba for dinner!!!
I think that other days make up for any shit that happens on holidays. :)
April/strongblone
We actually had a pretty nice Father's Day (and I can't believe I am about to say this... ) with the in-laws. DH had a good time cooking and hanging out with his brother and nephew. The kids had a great time playing with their cousins, and swam until they were total prunes.
And I didn't murder anyone. I actually enjoyed spending some time with one of my SILs. There was only one arguement and one conversation where they talked negatively about each other. And my MIL, and FIL only criticized my parenting once each. Everyone was on their best behavior. I was still smiling when we left - 8 hours after we arrived.
His b-day on the other hand will likely be a huge disappointment...
I don't try to hard to make anything special...we just remind him how much we love him, say happy fathers day a lot, and hang out. =) The girls were good, so it helped...so sorry yours was yucko...
I have a really hard time spoiling Bee. He also doesn't know what to do with himself under those circumstances.
C is the same way. I tried to be stealth like and leave the bedroom to get ready to pick up breakfast (his idea), but he heard me and just laughed. I still escaped with the twins and brought him back his breakfast. We didn't do anything special, and he refuses to do anything for himself even after I'm picking and prodding him to do so.
I think a birthday dinner just the two of you would be great. I would gladly take the Crazies if I lived closer, for serious.
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