So, this kid at a local high school was in an accident the other morning. He was ejected from the car. He suffered massive head trauma and his face is in pieces apparently. He's okay from the neck down.
He was tweeting about how drunk he was that night.
Somehow he got behind the wheel and tried to drive. He slammed into a tree and that was the end of that little joyride.
I hear he didn't have a license.
I cannot imagine what his family is going through as they wait for a surgeon to tell them when they'll put his face back together and see if there is any lasting brain damage or not.
I just can't imagine.
I mentioned this to a girl who goes to his high school. She said she heard about it. I asked if everyone was sad or worried. She said no. I asked why not. She shrugged and replied that it wasn't that much of a surprise. Everyone knew it would happen sooner or later.
I kind of left it at that b/c we had work to do, but I was stunned.
Everyone knew it would happen sooner or later??? Excuse me???
So, here's the thing...this kid comes from a very affluent community...a very tight knit community. Everyone knows everyone else's business. That's just how it is. You can't tell me that some adult in this community didn't know about this kid and didn't feel the need to say something to his parents.
Someone had to know.
Who knows? Maybe someone did say something. Maybe the parents were trying to get help. Maybe they were doing all they could. Or maybe they just didn't know.
However, even if the adults didn't know, clearly the kids did. They knew what he was all about. He frequently tweeted about how drunk he was.
The kids just step back and wait to see what will happen and that is a tragedy in itself. We're all so afraid to lose friends or seem like a "nerd" while we just watch someone destroy himself.
All I have to say is that if Matt or Hailey have this sort of problem and people know about it, please come tell me. Tell me to my face. Don't sugar coat it. Don't worry that I'll be mad at you. Don't worry about sparing our friendship.
Please worry about my children.
Please worry about the fact that if I don't know, I should know.
Please worry about the fact that if I don't know, I can't do anything about it. Just freaking tell me.
Any of us could be in this situation. Any of us could have a teenager that loses control. Any of us could have a teenager who has a substance issue. Most of the people reading this drank in high school. Most of the people reading this, at one point or another, have driven drunk. Most of the people could have been in this young man's shoes at one point in our lives.
However, if it's my child, tell me.
I beg of you.
Just tell me.
I am not saying that I won't be taken aback. I'm not saying I'll handle it well. I'm not saying I won't get defensive and question you. I'm not saying that I won't walk away and cry alone in my car, but I would rather cry in my car over something someone told me to try to help my child than in the hospital while my son has to be purposefully sedated because his injuries are too traumatic.
That's all I'm saying...tell me.